Have you ever witnessed a student do something really immature only to tell them to “grow up?” When you catch yourself and recall they’re 9? I have and it helps to have a sense of humor when it happens. I believe we need to set an age appropriate expectation for our students but as we work toward that end, we should be flexible and have a graduated expectation.
Little by little, poco a poco, inch by inch life’s a cinch. Rome wasn’t built in a day and in the case of some kids, it wasn’t ‘t built in a month either. As the teacher, it’s your privilege to make the expectation. I’ve seen too many however set it way too high and chastise the kid for just being a kid. It can be compared to Procrustes bed. He was a legend who had a bed he invited passers by to lay in. If they were too short he’d stretch them. Converse visitors would get their feet lopped off. To me, that a great image of why we should have graduated (modified) expectations as wise leaders.