This isn’t a post about quality time. Rathet it’s a reminder that some kids need space to calm down when they’re upset. While it may seem obvious, we as teachers forget it a lot. I myself do and many of my colleagues through the years have shared the same pickle with me. People outside the classroom seem to forget, I know this from talking to them for years, that we are with the kids often more than their own parents. We see a side of them that is what you might call their “true color” side. Now, this isn’t true of every child. Some have an amazing ability to behave and adapt to new and challenging situations from the first day of school. Others struggle and it’s those we should consider giving the gift of time to let their emotions calm down.
While some kids are more of a challenge to teach than others, as a teacher I really do hold a strong affinity for all my children entrusted to me. It is in fact, a love for them. When I have one or more failing to adapt with the mainstream, I become serious about finding a solution. Sometimes kids pass through their struggle as a phase, other times you can trace it all the back to kindergarten and even at the end of the year there is no coping ability in sight. When these kids have an upsetting situation and begin to act out in actions and words, teachers are alarmed. We are charged to protect all kids in our classroom and so our mother hen mentality kicks in. There is a natural tendency to give the child a corretive consequence like taking away recess or going to a time out.
Sometimes, depending on the child, simply putting them in a safe place and telling them you are giving them time to feel better or calm down eliminates the issue. This may not always be the right approach for for several of my behavior problems through the years it has worked quite well.